It is the eve of my 30th birthday, and the last day of my 20s. As i think of the last 10 years, I think of the lessons I’ve learned and the pep talks I would have given to my 20 year old self. I had no idea what to expect, except that I thought it would be all fun and no real hard life lessons….Luckily I was wrong. I’ve lived, I’ve stumbled a few times, but I always got back up. Here are 8 lessons/advice that I think are beneficial at every age.
1. There will be one constant in life and that is Christ. I have had to learn the hard way that the deeper my relationship with Christ the more peaceful my existence . Of course there will always be a circumstance that will be challenging, however how I approach my challenges depends on how much I have prioritize God is in my life.
2. Solid friendships. Looking back 10 or 15 years I have memories with the same group of friends up until this point in life. Solid friendships are consistent friendships . These are the friendships that are deep rooted and remain with you during each stage in life. Cherish them, they are a rare commodity in our social media driven world.
3. Take care of your body. The abuse of your youth will come back to haunt you. I am learning now to listen to my body and not ignore it. Rest is very important and so is proper nutrition and exercise. If good health is as important as we know it to be, it is never too late to start practicing healthy habits.
4. Independence takes time . During my preteen years I wanted to rush to be in my 20s for the mere fact that it meant freedom. I have learned that freedom takes time. Independence however you define it, does not come over night, it is a process . Whether that is financial freedom or otherwise, rushing the process can and will cause you to misstep. Not all shortcuts are rewarding.
5. Listen to your instincts they are usually right. Second guessing is a bad habit we learn when we constantly doubt ourselves. Confidence is acquired when we learn to trust what we think to be right, and learning when from the times we were wrong.
6. Embrace change, it will come often. A long time ago I knew I wanted to live in different places. I had to embrace the changes and uncertainty that comes with new experiences. Change is unavoidable, you can either accept that is happens or become paralyzed by it. The regret of never taking a chance is too high a cost that last longer than the fear of something uncertain.
7. Seasons change..and so do relationship statuses. God has given us the gift of changing seasoning , how we transition into them depends on us. Whether you are newly single, single for a long time, or newly married, or married for a long time, it is your current season . Embrace it, cherish the good that comes with it, and try not to dwell on the bad. No season last forever, change happens. Learn to live and love the season you are in.
8. Never lose sight of your dreams. Our dreams or aspirations sometimes feel like an elbow nudging on the inside, telling us that we can do better, be better, and do more more with your life. Listen to it, explore it, nurture it, and plan for its completion. There are far to many people who ignore that nudge until it is no longer felt. It is far worse to end life wondering what would have happened if you started , or if you had completed that passion project. Keep going, never stop, and never lose faith in the amazing places God can take you if you just start moving forward.
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