If i were honest, i have been trying to write a post for months. Each day i hope to be inspired, each day i hope to have an “Aha” moment, each day nothing. Days turned into weeks, weeks into months, the year ended and here i am days into 2017, still contemplating, still waiting, and wanting to refresh, re-examine, reinvent.
If i were honest i would tell you that i have no idea what i am doing, or where i am going. 2016 was a good year. A year full of academic, professional and personal achievements. Finishing graduate school, becoming employed as a psychologist, and moving to the bay area. 2016 ended an era, ended a four year journey that started with my move to California.
Nine days into 2017, a new year, a fresh start, i’m stuck. Don’t we hate that feeling? Unmotivated, uninspired, unmoved to do anything, isn’t it the worst? There is something about feeling stuck that forces us to look for the grey areas in our lives. We search to find the missing connections, the colorless area’s, the hidden areas. That’s how i view my stuck conundrum, as a shortage in the wiring of my brain, the energy flows but always stops short of creating, inspiring, moving forward.
If i’m honest i am not writing this post because i am past this point, and can give you a neatly packaged list of how to’s. I am writing this because i have yet to figure out the how to’s, i have yet to find a quick fix method. If we were honest, we all find ourselves feeling stuck, we just never talk about it. We prefer to show the neatly packaged version of ourselves, the highs and never the lows.
There are no list, books or articles that can quick fix something that is a part of life. Low points are just as necessary as the high points. Both create a balance in our human experience. Three things to remember when the balances are tipped :
- It’s ok to be stuck. You are not alone, or the first to feel this way.
- It’s ok to talk about it. There is no shame in being vulnerable.
- No one has it all figured out, no one is perfect.